Peace is something that seems to be in short supply these days. It feels like there is an argument waiting for each of us at every turn. Any expression of what we believe or feel seems like an invitation for someone to disagree. Of course, everyone has a right to their opinion! But a disagreement doesn’t have to be an argument and the decision to part ways doesn’t have to affect your peace.
This sense of walking on eggshells is something many of us experience before and during a divorce. It can feel as if any misstep creates an explosion of emotion and words that can’t be unsaid. Over time this can really wear on your well being and it is important to realize there is an alternative. You can end things positively and without the added stress and financial strain of a contentious, litigated divorce.
As a CDFA™, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, I specialize in helping people see clearly both for the present and for the future. I understand that when we get to the end of a relationship, we just want it over. However, what you agree upon now will affect you and your family years down the line.
As a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, I have guided divorcing couples through the process for over 15 years. Drawing from my own life experiences in marriage, parenting, divorce and step-parenting, I understand the intensity of the head vs. heart battle and do my best to help couples understand that keeping Peace is the best option.
Our goal is to help create a settlement that fully addresses the divorcing couple’s long term financial and strategic needs. My role includes providing you both with expert financial guidance, enhancing communication with your spouse and other professionals and, most importantly, creating amicable solutions. We help divorcing couples understand the reality of their situation and reach beyond an emotional reaction to what’s truly in everyone’s rational best interest, with the result being a better, more peaceful resolution.
I like to use the acronym P.E.A.C.E.
P is for Perspective. If we can try to see and understand things through each other’s eyes, it helps us find the middle ground for a compromise. I may never agree with you, but if I am willing to understand your perspective we can continue a discussion.
E is for Equitable Distribution. The law mandates a fair and equitable distribution of your assets and liabilities. That looks different for every couple. I use my expertise to help you determine what is fair given your unique circumstances.
A is for Analysis. After the emotional component is settled, divorce is often the largest financial transaction you will ever make. It is important to have a fair and thorough understanding of your financial situation.
C is for Conversations. The ability to discuss these things calmly, honestly and thoroughly is the key to the mediation process. Don’t worry if that doesn’t feel like something you can do right now! It’s my job to help you do this!
E is for everything else, which can cover a wide range of details, from refinancing, alimony, child support, credit card debt, making sure liabilities and deeds are changed, as well as how to operate emotionally and financially while in the divorce process.
The first step is a complimentary 15 minute call with you, followed by a call with your spouse. Then, if we are all comfortable, we will proceed with an initial consultation where we begin to discuss specifics. Mediation is typically the least expensive and most rewarding alternative to a litigated divorce. Couples always have the opportunity to have an attorney assist in the mediation process if they prefer. I hope to have the opportunity to help you and your family.